Insomnia (insomnia) wrote,

Some advice I gave recently.

You may find it relevant to you one day. It sums up many of my beliefs.

Seems to me that you're a free spirit and an idealist. (Not bad things, mind you...)

As a result, you tend to think that you can be yourself, do what you want to do, and at the same time expect that everything will turn out okay with everyone. Unfortunately, that's not likely / realistic. Things are sometimes going to suck, and sometimes the things you want, need, or have always depended upon will fail you.

Life isn't just about caring. It's about letting go. You have to care, or you wouldn't be you, and wouldn't be half as valuable to the world... but it's all fleeting, too.

That means that you'll have to get used to caring, and then losing those things that you care about. You'll have to love like crazy, and then feel extreme pain. You'll have to depend upon and trust others -- and often even yourself -- only to find that they've let you down.

That's life. It may seem like a horrible joke to gradually lose most everything in life that is important to you, but that doesn't mean that it's horrible most of the time. Sometimes, however, it is almost unbearable. Almost. There is nothing that life can take from you that you cannot live without, except for life itself, and, if you look hard and earnestly for it, you'll find that the joy of life outweighs the pain.

That doesn't mean that you can -- or should -- necessarily be happy most of the time, but it only takes a small amount of joy to make a hard day worth living for. Sometimes, you just need to look harder. You can only love the life you have, and must find a way to love it, flaws, failings, and all. Sometimes, imperfection is more endearing than perfection, for in imperfection, we see something of ourselves.

The rational thing to do when you lose something you care about isn't to give up on everything else you care about. It's to truely value what you have when you have it, never taking it for granted, and being aware that it is all utterly beautiful in its fleeting imperfection, in an overflowing and bittersweet way.

Or as the song goes...

"You've got to give a little, take a little
And let your poor heart break a little
That's the story of,
That's the glory of love

You've got to laugh a little, cry a little
Until the clouds roll by a little
That's the story of,
That's the glory of love

As long as there's the two of us
We've got the world and all its charms
And when the world is through with us
We've got each other's arms

You've got to win a little, lose a little
And always have the blues a little
That's the story of,
That's the glory of love."

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