US soldiers are dying in Iraq everyday... soldiers like adeptus13, ( aka Adam Estep) whose last post on LJ has become a memorial.
If you think that Iraq is the right war to fight, then you have to justify the death of nearly 1100 US soldiers, with over 7000 wounded in action, and well over 7000 more sent back home with injuries -- physical and mental -- that are often just as serious as those received in battle. You have to be there for their sad, proud dads, their hysterical mothers, their grieving wife or husband... you have to be able to look their children in the eyes, make things alright somehow ...and be there for them.
You also have to be there for the tens of thousands of Iraqis who have died, the tens of thousands maimed and wounded, the ones who lost their homes, and the ones who lost their livelihood.
You have to expect this human toll will get two, three, four, or even ten times higher in the future, both from the war and from its longterm effects of the lives of those scarred by it. Hundreds of thousands of soldiers will rotate in and out from Iraq before all this is over, and many will need help and support -- some now, some in the future. You have to be there for them not just this year, but ten, twenty, fifty, eighty years down the road.
You have to be there for them all, and you *should* be there for them all... but you have to realize that you can't. We live in a world of systems that dogmatically apply solutions that are both inadequate and uniformly incorrect, targeted towards a statistical average on a cost-benefit basis. At best, they are insufficient. At worst, they are the meatgrinders of humanity. That said, they are not the best we can do, nor the highest we can aspire to.
Your heart may be in the right place, but the systems you and I live in suck. On an human level, the cost of this war is (and will be...) completely, utterly overwhelming.
You can't be there for all of them no matter how hard you try, and that is the saddest thing of all.