"So how you make that transition to adult love is you just keep going; it's the same way you make the transition to California: You just keep going west and eventually you're in California. You should see all the people here! They all got here via different conveyances, but they all got here by heading toward California. Adult love is like California -- you just keep going in that general direction until a guy in a uniform asks to look at your fruits and vegetables."
I hate to say it, but some of you will never get there. Society is against you, and so are the odds. It's an awfully long journey and you need patience and perseverence... few people spend the time and many get lost along the way, but is it worth it? Yes, it is.